Luckily the children who made it had gone when he did this. I’m pretty sure if we met as children we wouldn’t be friends. I was the type of child who would sit there quietly for hours creating things and definitely would have put a lot of effort into a sandcastle. My husband was definitely a naughty little boy who would have destroyed it.
I recently got some more photos from our traditional Korean wedding so I thought I’d share some.
Two weeks after we had our Australian wedding we flew to Korea for our Korean wedding. Koreans don’t really do big traditional weddings like this anymore, instead most Koreans have a more westernized wedding and may just have a small ceremony after in traditional clothes. We had a wedding company organise our wedding but unfortunately we had no idea what was going on! Also, because this type of wedding is rarely done now, even the older relatives weren’t sure what was supposed to happen!
It ended up being pretty surreal and some points I was terrified. My husband looks so different in these photos as well. They put some horrendous makeup on him and pushed his hair back under the hat. The wedding was in Jinju Castle which is open to the public, so there was a huge crowd of people watching us. The sun was so hot and I remember sitting across from my husband, not being able to move in my hanbok, and worried my makeup was running down my face. My husband looked over me and mouthed, “This is terrible.” I just nodded and tried not to faint. I hadn’t had anything to drink in hours. The wedding seemed to go forever and I had no idea what was going on, but afterwards, especially when I look at the photos I know it was worth it. I can laugh about it now and it was definitely an experience!
So as you know, over Christmas we stayed in a holiday house near the beach. There is also a very large lake there and we went canoeing. I’ve mentioned previously that my husband is worried about crocodiles even though I’ve explained there are no crocodiles in this part of Australia. He became concerned again while we were paddling in the middle of the lake and I had to reassure him again.
Crocodiles aren’t his only concern. Whenever we are doing something to do with water he’ll ask about 10 times if there are definitely life-jackets. He is very scared of falling into the water because he is not a strong swimmer (even though he was in the Korean navy!) As you can see in the picture, he has the big yellow life-jacket. I just had a very small one that is only inflated in emergencies. Even then, I wouldn’t be too worried if I fell into the water because I can swim well (growing up in Australia it’s pretty much a requirement to be able to swim) and even though I’m not a really fast or strong swimmer, I float really well (probably because I have no muscle haha) so I just bob around calmly.
My siblings and I swam out quite far last weekend at the beach and I could see my husband anxious pacing on the shoreline. He didn’t relax until I swam back in.
This weekend we are going back down the coast again and will go out in my uncle’s boat. My husband is beginning to worry again and is asking about life-jackets again.
Also we’ll have no internet and possibly not even phone reception! Omg. That’s why Saturday’s post is up early. Also, as usual no post on Sunday. See you Monday!
This song is H.O.T’s first song and it was really popular when it was released because it was one of the first idol bands in Korea. Also what made them different was that there were 5 members (more than other bands) and they danced really well. The song was really cool, it’s about bullying in the school, so people could identify with it.
So many people liked this song so people copy the type of clothes they are wearing. That time we used cassette tape and we write down all the lyrics and sang the song in the school. I was a really big fan of H.O.T so in my room there was H.OT. posters all over the walls. I bought the same type of clothes like that- baggy clothes and the hat and everything.
Everyone thought the members looked really cool, the song, the clothes….everything. Everyone really liked the English rapping, there had been English rapping in songs before but not as long or as cool as this. We wrote down the English, but in Korean, and we would sing it. We recorded all H.O.T’s performances or appearances on TV shows and we would swap the tapes with friends and watch again and again. We bought the photo albums and the magazines they were in. H.O.T were our heroes.
Candy is their second single. They are wearing cute clothes and gloves and hat and the dance is really cute so every time we went to the karaoke we dance like them. Lots of people know how to dance Candy. It was winter and we bought the same type of gloves and cute clothes. Now when I look at the clothes they are wearing it’s embarrassing, but back then they were the coolest items ever. Also we like H.O.T because they were not from a wealthy background so we feel they are like one of us.
Back then SM Entertainment was really good, the lyrics were really good, we could identify with them and they had more meaning. These days I feel like SM Entertainment became too conservative and don’t want to have anything too controversial. They also don’t seem to care about the quality of the lyrics or English these days. Back then SM Entertainment was only a new company and H.O.T. made them a bigger company. I’m not professional music critic but that’s how I feel about it, that when music companies get a lot bigger they can lose some of their original values.
Oh the clothes! Oh the 90’s!
(Also, what is different about the picture?)
Even though my husband understands the correct pronunciation of English words, some words will still come out in Korean English. And sometimes it’s quite funny. My siblings like to set him up so he says certain words. “Beach” and “Beaches” is one that he just can’t get right. If I get him to repeat after me, he may get it on the 5th try. For other words like “fork”, which in Korean English is “pork”, if he says it without thinking he’ll say “pork” but very easily he can change to the correct pronunciation of “fork”. “Beaches” though… it always sounds like something else.
My Korean teacher (who is Korean) often made fun of the Korean way of saying “beach” and “beaches”. He said too many Koreans who come to Australia say things like this, “I love Australian bitches!” when of course they mean “beaches”. Or they ask someone, “Excuse me, which way to the bitch?” Hehe. I know what they mean but others who are not used to the Korean accent may not.
“Sit” is another one that can be funny because they may change it to a “sh” sound, which completely changes the meaning of the word! Even my teacher who has been in Australia for years and has good English still accidentally said to a student, “Please shit anywhere.” He realised immediately after and laughed pretty hard.
Another problem Koreans learning English have, is differentiating between the F and P sound. English F (also PH) words are said with a P sound in Korean so Koreans have to practice their F sounds a lot when learning English. Sometimes they practice so much that they begin to even say English P words with an F. When saying something like “park” and changing it to “fark” it can sound pretty close to a bad word! Learning another language can be so stressful but there can be some really funny moments. I’m sure once I know more Korean I’ll be accidentally saying some bad things.
by Nic • Australia • Tags: aussie christmas, australia christmas, beach christmas, kangaroos australia, korean husband, korean partner, koreans and christmas, my korean husband, nerf guns for christmas
And yes I apologised to the poor squid in the bucket. We have very different reactions to seeing sea creatures like this. I feel sorry for them but my husband is just licking his lips and thinking about eating them. Even with those eyes staring back!
He did try to catch a squid himself. He went with my brother and bought a squid jig at a tackle shop but when they went to try and catch one the ocean was too rough.
My parents rented a holiday cottage in a sleepy coastal village and we joined them for a few days and had Christmas there. It was my husband’s third Christmas with my family and he said it was the best one yet. Even though we were only there for a few days we did so much: swimming at the beach, fishing, canoeing on the lake, big Christmas lunch. There were even kangaroos out in the evening. It’s a myth that kangaroos jump down the street in Australia…. but sometimes, you will get kangaroos very close to houses in certain places. My husband was pretty excited to see kangaroos on the street and grazing on people’s front lawns. He also enjoys all the Christmas food and the special time with family. Christmas in Korea is not as fun or as special as it is here.
My husband did get nerf guns for Christmas… but luckily my mum made a rule that there was to be no shooting inside the cottage. So I escaped mostly. However, now that we are home in our apartment, my mum isn’t here to stop it! Currently there are nerf bullets strewn across the floor. (Also caught him having a nap at the cottage with his nerf gun in his arms.)
In a few days we are going back down to the same area to my uncle’s holiday house, so he’ll get another chance at trying to catch some squid.
What did everyone else do for Christmas? If you don’t celebrate Christmas, do you celebrate another holiday around this time of year?
Once I’ve had the ham on Christmas day I’m pretty much over it because it’s too much meat for me. My husband, as you know, loves meat so much. When we were staying at my parent’s house over Christmas it was heaven for him to go to the fridge and just slice off big chunks of ham. He really would just walk around with ham in each hand.
So instead of having Christmas at my parents’ house this year, we are all in a holiday house on the coast. My husband is working Christmas night so we are having our usual Christmas Day on Christmas Eve (tomorrow) now.
The holiday house is in a small sleepy town that literally has kangaroos hopping down the street. That is often a misconception about Australia- that there are kangaroos everywhere. Usually not true, especially for urban areas. Here however, they seem very used to people and are on front lawns eating the grass. As we walked down to the beach earlier we passed several kangaroos and a kid throwing a boomerang. Ahh the stereotypes! Anyway we are having a really nice time with my family. I feel like I haven’t had a summer holiday like this in a long time, so it feels good.
I asked on Facebook what I should do for this post and Mark said:
Something about the (not) end of the world.
by Nic • Mr Gwon Recommends • Tags: G.O.D mother song, G.O.D to my mother, GOD mother korean band, korean culture lunch box at school, korean culture parents, Mr Gwon Recommends, my korean husband, my korean husband blog, older korean music, sad korean music
Today Mr Gwon recommends G.O.D ‘To My Mother’.
Beginning of song the lyric is a bit funny because eating Jajangmyeon (black noodle) but it’s actually a really sad story. Lots of people had similar problem in the school because they were poor. It happens a lot, we have meal together in the school, many times lots of students just have kimchi, and some vegetables but when someone has meat type of thing for their lunch box they bully the other students, “Oh why you only have kimchi!”
One time my mother cooked for us and there was no meat on the table so I complained to mum “What should I eat? There is nothing I can eat!” and now I realise I was a rude and stupid kid.
Lots of people, they cried when they listen to the end of this song because the guy didn’t say ‘I love you’ to his mother but she died. It’s really hard to say ‘I love you’, I don’t know about these days, but when I was growing up, it was really hard to say I love you to your parents. I didn’t say ‘I love you’ to my parents for 25 years and when I was in Australia I called my mother and I said ‘I love you’ on Korean Parents Day and they cried. And now we say ‘I love you’ to each other very often.
Every time people listen to this song it reminds us how important our mother is. I’m pretty sure there are many families that… their mother died and they never said I love you to their mother. It’s really sad.
So everyone should call their mother and say ‘I love you’, and thank you. I’m going to call my mother now…
(On a lighter note, what is different about the picture this week?)
by Nic • Australia, My Australian Wife • Tags: australia renovating, australian wife, fish markets, korean husband australian wife, korean point of view, my australian wife, my korean husband, pirate booty, seafood hot pot
So when I make comics they are always from my point of view and about the funny things my husband does. For this post I’ve allowed my husband to show some things from his point of view.
He drew the characters originally for me and gave me the ideas and then I put them together for him. And yes I think that’s supposed to be muscles and a six pack on him.
Okay so I like chairs! Actually this is a bit of a cultural difference. He doesn’t understand the range of furniture and the fascination with it here. His parents don’t even really own chairs. I couldn’t even see a single chair in their house in Korea. So because of sitting on the floor and those small tables that can be put away, he doesn’t understand Australians’ love of furniture and renovating and picking out things like chairs for the home… So he thinks I talk about liking chairs an awful lot.
I always feel so bad for the fish and stuff on the ice at the fish markets! And when seafood hotpot is ordered I can’t eating anything that looks like an animal, especially the baby octopuses and prawns.
Juno Marie asked me to do a blog post on if we get stared at in Korea or Australia and if we find it awkward.
I was trying to think of a comic to do for this, or at least a picture but all it would consist of is a drawing of people staring at us… so not that interesting. So this blog post will just be an extra one instead and there will still be a normal comic on schedule.
We do get stared at in Korea and Australia. In Korea we get stared at by Koreans and in Australia we get stared at by……….Koreans. Okay, sometimes it’s other people but the majority of stares are from Koreans. I understand why though. In Australia an interracial couple isn’t that unusual, an Asian man with a Western woman is a little bit different but it’s not enough for Australians to blatantly stare (unless it’s a really rural white area).
However, in Korea it’s a very homogenous population so they are just not used to seeing a relationship that is a bit different. I feel more uncomfortable in Korea, because it’s not my home country and I get stared at even without my husband. Sometimes the way people stare feels a bit like being famous without any of the perks of being famous. In Australia, no matter who is doing the staring, I don’t care, because it’s my country.
When we meet Koreans in Australia (and I mean Koreans IN Australia, not Korean Australians) they usually comment on our relationship with something like, “You are an unusual couple!” They can be quite shocked (not necessarily in a bad way) that I’m Australian and married to a Korean man. Australians may find it interesting that my husband is Korean but it’s hardly shocking to them.
Korean guys stare at us the most I think. What they are thinking about, I can only guess at though. Koreans on student visas and working holiday visas tend to just live and work with other Koreans and stay in the Korean community so even while they are here in Australia, it’s unusual for them to see a Korean guy with a non-Korean.
So in conclusion, yes we do get stared at a bit in Australia. In Korea we definitely get stared at, but a lot of my time in Korea has been spent in my husband’s home town which is very rural area with no white people. When we live in Korea for a few years I’ll see what the difference is between the more rural areas and the cities.
I just try to brush it off and ignore it for the most part, especially when I realise most times people aren’t doing it to be rude, but are just a bit curious.
After Christmas will we go down the coast to my uncle’s holiday house for 2 days.
We are way too south for there to be any crocodiles around here. Doesn’t matter to him though, as he has his attack strategy all worked out. His logic about the lake and ocean is a bit flawed too as Australia has saltwater crocodiles as well as fresh water crocodiles.
Anyway, there aren’t crocodiles in this part of Australia!
Not sure why he thinks listening to comedy is a good thing to try and fall asleep to. He listens to something called ‘Cul2′ and it makes him laugh hysterically. But you know when you can’t hear what someone is laughing at, only the laughing, and it makes them sound like a maniac? Even worse is that he always sleeps with a cotton blanket over his head, so it’s just this weird mound laughing loudly.