You are the best…. thai food 16

you are the best... thai food (1024x1024)I was almost crying because he was being lovely and romantic and then suddenly CHEAP THAI FOOD! That kinda ruined the moment haha. But he can’t help himself when he sees a good deal.

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Fashion Post 19

Puji asks

i wanna ask about how korean people think about fashion and where they usually buy their clothes, because i am impressed by their fashion style, kekeke. thanks :)

 

Okay I’m going to open this up to everyone, so please share your opinions in the comment sections. If you live in Korea where do you buy your clothes?

I really like Korean fashion and a lot of my clothes are actually Korean but I think I still wear them in my own style.

Australian fashion can be anything really, it depends on who you are, where you are, personal taste etc. There is definitely a more distinctive Korean style. We can tell who is Korean in Sydney a long way off simply because we recognise the brands and styles that Koreans wear.

One of the bigger differences between Australian fashion and Korean fashion is what skin is shown. Korean girls will easily show all their legs but usually keep their chest area, shoulders and backs covered. While Australian women may show their legs (just not as much as Korean girls) we have no problem with showing cleavage and chest area, shoulders and back. I’ve heard that the back is seen as particularly sexy by Koreans but for Australian women, a lot of our summer dresses are maxi dresses that reveal a lot of the back.

Another difference is the way Korean girls wear baseball caps. Here, if we are wearing a baseball cap like that it’s because we are going to exercise or do something sporty. But Korean girls will wear huge heels, a short skirt and nice blouse, do their hair and makeup and plonk a cap on. It took me a while to work out that this was just Korean style (and sometimes girls want to hide their faces).

I remember when I first had Korean friends and I’d arranged to go shopping with a friend. She’d answer the door wearing a cap like that and I’d be like, “…..Are you not ready? Do you need more time to get ready?” To me the cap was just too informal to go out in. It’s still sometimes strange to me to see girls wearing beautiful clothes with a cap like that.

My sister-in-law sent me some Korean clothes and accessories recently. Here are two photos of me trying them out.

Korean FashionKorean Fashion 2

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What do you think? Do you like Korean fashion?

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Bossy 19

Bossy

I’ve mentioned before about the way he can be ‘grabby’ in a spontaneous burst of affection way. Not all Korean guys are like this, but if you’ve watched enough Korean romantic dramas you know exactly what I’m talking about.

I used to think the female characters in Korean dramas were too easily annoyed and pissed off all the time when the male lead does something but now I can understand that reaction. It can be annoying. My husband will sometimes do it to deliberately annoy me too, but claim he is just being romantic.

I just shoved him off again because I won’t put up with the bossy romantic act. He then cackled to himself, “Haha I think I’m really funny.”

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Butterfly 17

Butterfly In the morning I told him he was still an ugly caterpillar.

He hurt his back stupidly at the gym but hopefully it’s getting better now. We still kinda live like students. All our wedding presents are still at my parents’ house and we don’t want to use them until we have our own apartment so we are lacking in some household items, which is why he ended up with a fitted sheet on the floor. He likes to sleep with a sheet or blanket over his head so quite often he looks like he is in a cocoon, but the fitted sheet accentuated it. He has never emerged as a butterfly though (or a moth, cocoons are actually made by moths).

 

 

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Serious Conversation 14

serious conversation

I can’t always follow along with what is being said in Korean. Sometimes I pick up enough words to know what they are talking about and even join in the conversation if I understand (though I will only speak in English with just a few scattered Korean words) but sometimes I have no idea. I can tell by body language and tone when it’s a serious conversation though and often it’s a good time to tune out. You can’t expect someone to constantly translate everything in these types of situations and you can’t just butt in with “Hey what are you guys talking about?! Tell me!”

So I find this is a good time to eat food while no one else is! Haha! I think I ate most of the chicken last night. Don’t worry, this was not our dinner, this was after dinner. It’s normal for Koreans to go to a Korean restaurant for dinner, and then move onto another Korean restaurant which is more for drinking (and then sometimes after one after that). But when buying soju you still need to buy some food, so more dishes are ordered and shared.

Korean fried chicken is so delicious. Unfortunately it’s never as good in Sydney restaurants as it is in Korea, but it’s still nice. I love the small chicken pieces with spring onion. Too easy to eat a lot of it.

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GD Forums 12

GD forums The forums called Jiyong’s Crayons can be found HERE.

GD fans, please don’t attack him, he only says GD is evil because I love GD haha.

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Mangled Sayings 11

Mangled SayingsI know he was thinking of the saying “What’s the magic word?” Which of course the answer to is ‘please’. However, I had already said please by then so he ended up saying… whatever that was… as he handed me the water. Doesn’t help that he was on Kakao Talk at the same time.

What sayings have you said wrong? Or heard someone else get wrong?

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Mini Giveaway 79

THIS GIVEAWAY IS NOW CLOSED.

There will be bigger giveaways coming up but since it’s been a while since I’ve done one, here is a small giveaway.

Hangul stickersHangul stickers! Write your name in Korean and stick it on stuff!

To enter all you need to do is leave a comment in the comment section. Please only enter once and only use one screen name (no multiple screen names). The winner will be chosen randomly in about a week.

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Talking 12

Talking

We really love spending time together. We have our own friends and interests but we are happiest being together. However, there are times when we are apart. He has been back to Korea a few times and I sometimes go to my home town, so there have been times where we are separated. Usually just for a week or two, but I think the longest we were apart was 5 weeks. It’s just something you learn to deal with.

When we are apart we usually only talk on the phone for short amounts of time. We don’t have huge conversations because we are used to talking face to face and it’s just not the same. My husband will stumble over English and I don’t like talking on the phone that much in general. He is even worse at chatting online so we only do it for short amounts of time. So when we are not together we usually just have short check ins with each other once or twice a day and that’s it.

It means when we are together again we have so much to talk about and it can take hours to get through everything we want to say.

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Time Travel 10

Time Travel

Random extra comic about something I sometimes think about. I probably watch too much Doctor Who.

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Radio Interview for 1013 Main Street 9

Here is the radio interview I did for the 1013 Main Street Korean radio program.

Click here.

So yeah, I had major echo on my end and I could hear myself back through the phone so if I pause weirdly that’s why.  It’s always really weird hearing your own voice. I’m sure my accent seems stronger than it really is haha.

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Unpacking 9

UnpackingSo I’m back in Sydney now. And I haven’t unpacked yet. I know I’m going to be forced to do it very soon though… My husband is starting his speech, “This is our plans for the day!” I know unpacking will be one of them.

This comic actually appeared on the Tumblr first, because I like to mix things up a bit.

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Is it? 16

Is it?GD jealousy again… Of course it would be cool to see GD! I really doubted that he would be in Sydney but this guy had the same build as him and was wearing a hoodie with the same thing GD has for a tattoo and those type of shorts GD wears, so for a second I was like “….maybe?” Yup not him.

Please come to Sydney GD! I really hope he does but since Big Bang never come here I doubt he will.

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Stoic? 22

Today I have a question from Paul:

I was born in Korea, but came to the US when I was 2. In 1978, I was 8 years old and my parents bought a leather bound set of the World Book Encyclopedia. I turned to Korea and the first sentence read, “The Koreans are a stoic people.”

Do you find your husband or his parents to be stoic at all?

I found this to be true of the immigrants to the US from my parent’s generation.

So the modern meaning of stoic is something like being indifferent, detached and calm, or unaffected by adversity. So I’m guessing that Encyclopedia meant that Koreans had remained strong and seemingly unemotional through much adversity. There is also the meaning relating to a school of philosophy where people should be unmoved by passions and emotions and submit without complaint. There are definitely elements of this “submit without complaint” through Korea’s history as they endured many many wars over the centuries. Both Japan and China invaded them many times, sometimes even had wars against each other IN Korea. Korea, being the smaller country learned how to endure this and just carry on.

If we look at the time period, the 1960’s and 1970’s, it’s actually not that long after the Korean War. And before the Korean War was World War II and the Japanese occupation. Koreans had endured a lot! I’m sure being stoic was a way of coping with the hardships they faced, especially during this time. Any Koreans leaving Korea around that time would have taken those values with them.

South Korea, however, has changed incredibly since the 1960’s and 1970’s. South Korea’s economy improved dramatically. There was rapid industrialization, improved living standards, urbanization, modernization: South Korea went from being a war torn country receiving foreign aid, to a wealthy, developed country that could now give out aid to other countries. Quite a transformation. This of course affects the national character of South Koreans and how Korean express themselves now is probably quite different from how Koreans were over 50 years ago.

So what are Koreans like now? I actually find them to be very expressive in general. The relationships they have with others are extremely important, socializing is important and their friendships are expressed openly. It’s not unusual for girls to hold hands and for guys to show a lot of physical affection to male friends. They can react very outwardly emotionally to things, not hiding their feelings at all. I think that stoic character is limited to only some of older generation now and I definitely wouldn’t say all Koreans are like that now.

When people move to another country they try to take their culture with them and hold tightly onto it. Not only Koreans, but many other people from many countries do this as well. What can happen though, as the years pass, is they end up holding onto a culture that is from many years ago and meanwhile the culture in their homeland has changed a lot. Especially if they rarely visit Korea as well and are in a community of other families that all migrated at a similar time. What they view as essential Korean culture may now not be the same as what Koreans in Korea think is essential culture. There may be some views that are out-dated or emphasis on certain aspects that have since faded away in Korea.

This is why sometimes non-Koreans have more problems marrying into an American Korean family or Australian Korean family, but my husband’s family, who live in a small conservative town in rural Korea, actually had no problems with him marrying a non-Korean. But for Koreans that migrated, perhaps they place more importance on marrying only Koreans.

I do remember meeting an American guy who, when heard that my boyfriend was Korean, warned me about Korean families and how they will never accept me etc. His only experience with Koreans was Korean communities in the US, not Koreans actually living in Korea.

Korea is still changing rapidly and people who leave the country for as little as 5 years, can return and be surprised at the change. So I think the character of Korea is constantly changing and evolving.

My husband is definitely not stoic at all. It doesn’t take much to move him emotionally and he feels things deeply and has no problems with expressing it as well. Though he knows how to cope with hard times, he sees no point in bottling up feelings.

My husband’s parents are very expressive in their love for me. We always say “I love you” on the phone. They are always openly concerned about my husband and me and always express how they want us to have a happy life. They have a small farm and work very hard. Sometimes after a long day, when we talk to them on the phone, they say that even though their bodies are sore and they are tired, all the pain and tiredness goes away when they hear our voices. They are comfortable expressing themselves like that.

My husband’s parents don’t speak any English and my Korean is very basic but my father-in-law likes to try and express himself by singing. He knows some English pop songs from years ago. And tries to use them to communicate with me.

Korean Father-in-lawSo, in conclusion, while stoicism was definitely essential for Koreans in order to survive in the past, Korea and Koreans are rapidly changing and that definition may not be applicable now.

That’s just my opinion drawn from my own reading and experiences.

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Selca 12

selca

This is a reoccurring argument for us. When he takes a self portrait he always does the exact same pose and opens his eyes are far as possible. When I point out that he is doing it, he gets all annoyed and indignant. He thinks that I’m saying that his eyes are really small, but really I’m just saying he is trying to change them for the photo. The problem is that Koreans often insult each other by saying things like “You have small eyes!” There is this idea that big eyes are better somehow and so many people have a complex about the size of their eyes or their eyelids (hence the popularity of eye surgeries in Korea, but won’t talk about that right now).

HOWEVER, I love my husband’s eyes. They are beautiful. I think they are a lovely shape, and actually quite wide, and he has the longest eyelashes I’ve ever seen on a Korean guy. I just wish he would realise that his eyes are beautiful and that he doesn’t need to try and change them like that for photos.

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