FAQ

 

Where do you guys live?

We live in Sydney, Australia. My home town is actually in the middle of New South Wales though (about 5 hours drive from Sydney), so we do spend some time with my parents there.

How did you meet?

The short story is that we met through advertising for language exchange. I’d had many Korean friends for several years but most had returned to Korea, so I was looking to make some new friends. My husband, who had been in Australia for a few years and had many international friends, was always interested in meeting new people. We clicked pretty quickly. The day that we met was quite interesting though… you know those movies where the time frame is only 1 day and 1 night but many weird things happen to the characters and it goes from one incident to the next? And in the end the girl ends up with the nice guy? It was like that. I might tell that story one day.

Have you been to Korea?

Yes, in 2011 we stayed in Korea for a month where I met his family for the first time. We returned in 2012 for our traditional Korean wedding. We visited again in 2013. While in Australia we spend a lot of time in Korean areas and communities so I’m usually around more Koreans than I am Australians. Even in my home town we gravitate towards other Koreans.

Will you ever live in Korea?

We are planning to move to Korea at the beginning of 2014 and stay there for a few years.

Can you speak Korean?

I’m still a beginner so my Korean is still very basic. I can understand a lot more than I can say myself.

How did your parents and his parents react to your relationship?

Although I grew up in an area that was predominately white and more prone to prejudice and racism, my parents have always been open minded and accepting of other cultures. They weren’t surprised at me having a Korean boyfriend as I already had many Korean friends and had previously dated Korean guys. They loved him from the first time they met him, so there were no problems there.

My husband’s parents have also been extremely supportive. Before they even met me they told my husband “if you love her, we will love her”. And when I met them in Korea I was welcomed into the family.

Does your husband speak English well?

It depends on how you look at it. He has a Korean accent of course, but he speaks conversational English quite naturally. He learned most of his English while studying in The Philippines and improved immensely by having English speaking friends. His speaking skills are definitely better than his writing skills, which is actually the opposite for a lot of Koreans. Koreans tend to learn English in high school and university but have very little experience speaking it. Many get a big shock when they come to Australia and realise they can barely have a conversation with someone. So my husband, although he gained his English speaking skills as an adult and only in recent years, is quite good at speaking English.

Do you ever have trouble communicating with each other?

I think all couples, even those that speak the same native language, can have this problem. We just tend to more aware of it. We are patient with each other, and don’t jump to conclusions and we ask for clarification before reacting to something. While we don’t speak the same native language, we speak the same language emotionally so we rarely have problems with communication.

What do you use to draw your comics?

I use a Wacom Bamboo tablet. Originally I just used watercolour paints and pen though.

Will you have a book?

I recently signed a publishing deal with a Korean publishing company. The book will be for the Korean market and be all in Korean. Mostly it will be the comics that are already on the blog. I’m hoping after that to release a comic book in English that tells the story of how we met and many things that have not been on the blog yet.

When will you have a baby?

In a few years. We still have a lot of things we want to do first.

If you have a question that hasn’t been answered please leave it in the comment section below. I’ll either answer it here or, if it involves a longer answer, will answer it with a blog post.

  • sweet_sakura =)

    i just sign in now.. can’t wait to read your blogs.. =)
    surely I’ll be your avid follower….

  • Stella

    What application/program that you use to draw the comics? :D

    • http://www.mykoreanhusband.com/ Nic

      I use Open Canvas lite with a bamboo tablet :)

  • Cosmo

    Hi there, I am an Australian woman and my boyfriend is Korean. My boyfriend is in his final year of uni and is studying in Japan at the moment. We are planning to start our lives together here in Australia next year. I was just searching for some information on the prospective marriage visa and my searches led me to your blog. I’m so happy that I found this place, your blog is so interesting to read! :)

    After all the info that I read about the fiance visa, I figured that he would need to be offshore when he applies and when the visa is granted. It would also take a few months (maybe 6 months) for the visa to be granted – which means that we will be long distanced for a longer time (we have already been on a long distance relationship for a year now..). Being separated with the one you love is really painful but I think he is the man that is worth the wait :)

    My boyfriend’s English level is not as great yet (he can probably read better than speaking). He studies English everyday on his own but he doesn’t get much practise in speaking it (I have to admit that partly would be my fault because I don’t really speak to him in English. I feel it’s more natural for us to communicate in Japanese and Korean as that’s how we first communicated when we met each other). My question is, when he comes to Australia next year how should he go about finding a job? Did your husband have any trouble finding a job here in Australia? If you don’t mind sharing, what does he do for living?

    We are going to be living in Brisbane. I think Brisbane doesn’t have a big Korean community like Sydney.. any advice would be much appreciated!

    Thank you!
    Cosmo

    • http://www.mykoreanhusband.com/ Nic

      Hi! There is a Korean community in Brisbane so you will be able to meet other Korean and make friends.

      For getting a job, there are two options. He could get a job through the Korean community working for Koreans. There are things like cleaning companies and restaurants. The problem with this is that it’s likely he will be illegally underpaid. The benefit of course is being able to speak Korean in the workplace.

      The other option is finding a job where he will at least be paid the minimum wage which means branching out from the Korean community. There are a lot of jobs where it’s okay to have minimum English and if he is studying every day and improving, in an Australian work environment will help his English. I think there is a casino in Brisbane, casino jobs, even just basic things like cleaning, pay quite well and English isn’t always expected to be really good.

      There are websites and forums for Koreans living in Queensland so if your husband checks them out he will be able to meet other Koreans. Good luck!

  • SAKURA J

    Did you study illustration in school? Or did you draw as a hobby growing up? I have seen your drawings of the BIGBANG members and they are great!

    • http://www.mykoreanhusband.com/ Nic

      Thanks. I drew when I was younger and have been to art school as well as working in an art studio with other artists :)

  • SAKURA J

    Hugh’s 30???? And you are 29???? You 2 look younger than your actual ages!!! :O *Shocked!*

    • http://www.mykoreanhusband.com/ Nic

      haha yeah we are old

  • SAKURA J

    Taken from your Paris Baguette comic. This face that you drew of yourself could be a perfect meme! XD

  • dana (brokeassbride)

    We adore your drawing style, and I’d love nothing more than to surprise my korean (future) husband with a comic drawn by you. Do you accept requests for comissioned pieces? Thanks! Dana

  • Anna

    It’d be really great if you guys did tell that day story of how you’ve met. Are you guys planning on having children when you move to Korea?

    • http://www.mykoreanhusband.com/ Nic

      I’m hoping to make a longer form comic about it for a book :) We may get pregnant in Korea but will likely have the baby in Australia.

  • Yahaira Vazquez

    I love this blog! It makes me laugh a lot and it is very interesting! I really wish I could learn Korean :)

  • Cassie

    This is such a fantastic blog! Superhappy that it appeared on my facebook stream and that I ended up here. You’re comics are rad and we need more people telling positive stories of cross-cultural relationships

    • http://www.mykoreanhusband.com/ Nic

      thank you! :)

  • dexter morgan

    i watched the documentary on tv. you guys look so happy :)

    • http://www.mykoreanhusband.com/ Nic

      :)

  • Deborah Mennessier

    I’m so in love with your blog ^^ …
    My boyfriend is korean and I’m french. When I first read the blog I was like “Oh it’s just like us !!” or “WOW oppa had the same reaction” blablabla … Haha

    Thanks for sharing your little cute stories. I’m eager to see the next comics <3 and share the link on my blog.

  • carlagogreen

    Love ur comics they have me laughing all the time!:)) …. Who’s more affectionate u or him? Nic do u get jealous? does he notice? Do you like it when he get jealous? Is Public affection embarrassing? I’ve never seen Koreans with plus size women is there none there?…just curious

    • http://www.mykoreanhusband.com/ Nic (MyKoreanHusband)

      Thanks! I think we are probably about the same affectionate level. I don’t really get jealous, and it’s kinda funny when he gets a bit jealous :) Public affection isn’t embarrassing usually…. and definitely seen Korean guys with plus size women before ;)

  • Michael Hwang

    Hello, I’m Korean-American fan of yours.

    Sometimes you know we misunderstood each other. I’d like to tell you wise words. Don’t make things difficult, if you fought or had a conflict with your husband. It’s okay in order to be a nice couple. Just laugh with your spouse, talk with your spouse and help out. All these things should help.

  • 임만

    Hello
    I really love your blog (:
    I’ve questions about korean bed scenes in movies
    I didn’t expect to see those scenes in movies and famous actors do that like the guy in “when the winter blows or s.th” and the mv of kim hyung jun
    Are they really being naked even though their society is conservative or it is fake ??
    They really have sex ?? B/c it seems so real for me
    Do koreans accept those actors & singers when they do that ??
    ” I’m not talking about porn they just movies & mv ”

    Hope i find the answers (:
    Keep going & by the way u r sooo lucky 2 have korean husband
    Wish you happiness (:

    • http://www.mykoreanhusband.com/ Nic (MyKoreanHusband)

      Hi, those type of scenes are just filmed the same way hollywood movies are filmed. It’s fake and acting with certain camera angles and tricks. They will be really kissing but it’s never real sex. There would be moral outrage if it was.

  • Miosotis

    I’m from Puerto Rico. I just found your blog via Dramafever and is very interesting because here in the Caribbean and Latin America we have been exposed to korean “culture” through kdramas, so many women are misguided by their portrait of koreans guys. Ione thing that surprise at first is how respectful they are to people, especially elders, but at the same time they kinda blunt with their opinions. I will keep following your bicultural adventure. Love the comics!

    • http://www.mykoreanhusband.com/ Nic (MyKoreanHusband)

      thanks!

  • Marina

    I really like your blog for the it’s atmosphere. Somehow you are able
    to create a really optimistic and bright one! Thanks!

  • Gavra Cindy Amelis

    Anyoung haseyo.. :)
    Do you have any information of good website/group where I can get good Korean friends to talk with in English as well as practicing Korean?

  • Lorin

    When is your Korean book going to be published? Is there a date set yet?

    • http://www.mykoreanhusband.com/ Nic (MyKoreanHusband)

      May :)

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