Woops it made my weeK * not my weed haha what a slip.

He wasn’t a club boy either but well, I guess I’ll just have to forget about him… I’ll gather some friends and the Korean Cultural office will be our new spot 🙂 I’m too shy for meeting someone I met online with language exchange. Thank you so much for answering me ! This made my day and even my weed (=^-ω-^=) Wish you aaall the best ! XOXO

As you said every guy is different, but we can try to make some guesses. Whether he was a long term resident or just on a working holiday or a student may play a part in his interactions. Many guys on shorter visas may just be looking for fun. If you are interested in having meaningful interactions with Korean guys I recommend finding other ways besides clubs. See if there is a Korean cultural office and what events they have, see if there are people advertising for language exchange or meet up groups like that. Even pubs are better than clubs – find somewhere where you can actually talk to people. Sophie and Han met in a pub. With World Cup very soon I think there will be many places Koreans will be watching the matches, so I think that is a much better way to meet Koreans and it won’t be assumed you are a “club girl” 🙂

Oh thank you for replying ! No, I’m in London …

Hi, Are you in Korea or in your own country?

this is funny, since my half white/asian friend asked me ‘how can i get asian guys?’ and i told her about the fact that most asian men don’t even think that women outside their ethnicity will not like them. she was quite surprised! and felt a bit bad for the self-blaming asian dudes 🙁

Hah, yeah you do have a really good point. Touche! But I didn’t mean to sound to patronizing. I am Korean, so it was more of a criticism than blaming something.
Yeah, I live in the U.S. so I understand very well that the movies and magazine spreads, etc, have influenced a huge deal of the images of whites and Asians.
But I do think that the Korean media should not give into those silly stereotypes, especially when this is a country not built by Europeans, and have not lived through Eurocentric standards for 5 millennia. I think we as Koreans should just enjoy the Western media as what it is, instead of gentrifying our own to their standards. Just a thought!

Exactly right. So of course when a Korean guy is with a woman that the media has said is unattainable it is seen as something surprising and like achieving a fantasy, even though of course relationships are based on more than that.