The most beautiful and mature words you can possibly say about the other person, Nic – “You can still see each other as the best person for you AS A WHOLE”… You’ve hit the nail on the head 🙂

I think one thing to consider is that love isn’t the same constant emotion for the rest of your life. There are good days, there are bad days, there are lots of days in-between. It’s impossible to keep up the intense passionate love that happens early on in a relationship, eventually you settle down into a love based on commitment, not just on attraction and the crazy feelings.
If you see not finding anyone else in the whole world as attractive as a benchmark for your love, there may come a day where you do find someone else attractive and it may cause you to question your relationship – even though that type of moment is completely normal. If you already acknowledge there are other attractive people in the world, when you do see someone else attractive, whether it be on TV or in real life, you aren’t going to have a crisis and question your own relationship. That’s just my view anyway.

While beauty is subjective, beauty and attraction also isn’t the most important thing in a marriage either. It’s something that draws people together, but commitment to each other becomes the most important thing. It’s a series of choices you are constantly making in your life. Which is why there are lots of happy arranged marriages.

Personally we find being very logical in our relationship has helped us a lot. We had to be logical very early on because of having to commit early and visas and all that type of thing. It wasn’t a whirlwind romance.. it was about commitment and logically knowing that this could work out. You can be completely attracted to your partner and know they are best for you, but you gotta remember the every day life that you experience with them too. It’s likely you will see them at their worst and just not be feeling the attraction at certain moments – which is completely normal, because it comes back as well. And regardless of the attraction aspect, you can still always see each other as the best person for you as a whole. Anyway, sorry that was long-winded. Just wanted to say that although everyone is different and perhaps you will only ever see your partner as the most attractive person to you, don’t hold that aspiration so high that it affects a relationship too negatively.