I’ve been wanting to do this video for a few months and finally we had the time to film it. Often online, couples present this really perfect image of their relationship, but of course no relationship is perfect. We wanted to talk realistically about what has been hard in our marriage, in particular what it was like last year.
It’s no surprise that work/life balance, having a baby, and money all impact a marriage a lot. Even being aware of these stressors, it’s difficult going through it. We talk openly about our experience and working through the difficulties of the first year of having a baby.
As we mentioned, Hugh has quit his job and is going free-lance so he is in control of his time and can make family life a priority. We will also be doing a lot more YouTube content, which is great for creativity but also great for spending time together as a family.
I hope us talking openly about this will help people realise that no one has a perfect relationship and that you do have to work on your marriage. Being comfortable enough to talk about issues is important in a relationship. Also, knowing that you can argue and things will be okay.
We also want to be open about the reality of life. We aren’t living some wealthy, high-flying life in Seoul. We have a great life in Seoul, but we don’t want to pretend it’s more awesome than it is. Unfortunately some people do try and project that image on YouTube and Instagram but really their life isn’t as glamorous as it seems.
We’ve been doing YouTube part-time and somewhat of a hobby for years now, but now that we’ve reached 100K it’s time to get serious! Well… serious enough to publish regular weekly content.
One series we have started is looking at news and trends from Korea every week. Hugh will pick a few topics in Korean news and we will discuss them. Often what is happening in Korea news and what gets translated internationally can very a lot, so this should give a bit of a glimpse into what people are talking about in Korea.
I’ll also share something from Australia and try to find the weirdest thing that has happened. Usually something weird going on in Australia!
We are going to be doing a lot of experimenting with other videos too, so we can find out what content we like making, and what videos people want to watch. Unfortunately Hugh’s body transformation viral video negatively affects us because we gained a bunch of subscribers interested in fitness and health content, but that’s not what our main content is about. That looks bad in the YouTube algorithm, even though we have great comments on our video, because YouTube is showing our videos to the wrong people. We are trying to flip the balance so that our videos show to people interested in Korea and intercultural content, rather than just…. dudebros… haha.
We talk about dating in Korea! What is the truth about dating in Korea? While we didn’t date in Korea, we were part of the Korean community in Sydney and of course now live in Korea. And Hugh, being a Korean man, has lots to talk about the dating culture and cultural differences.
What sparked this video is that Keith from Seoulistic has written a book about dating in Korea. He interviewed us about our experiences, and some other people too. Korean dating culture can be difficult to navigate for people who have moved to Korea, so he goes into a lot of detail about important things to know.
Also in our video we talk about some of our experiences navigating cultural differences and we talk about when fetish comes into play and what usually happens. With BTS bringing so much attention to Korea and Korean men there are sure to be some people coming to Korea with unrealistic expectations.
When nonKoreans do start dating in Korea and end up in a serious relationship, there are many cultural things to navigate! Having a guide helps a lot, and I wish I had more info when Hugh and I first starting dating…. back in the stone age.
The worst thing people can do in this situation is not pay attention to cultural differences and assume that “love conquers all”. They may make the mistake of thinking since this person is now their boyfriend and girlfriend that everything is “safe” and they can relax. As we mention in he video, the terms boyfriend and girlfriend may not even mean exactly what we assume in Western countries.
There are a lot more topics in the dating category we can talk about. Especially being an “old married couple” now, we can hopefully give some people some insight into what it takes to have a serious relationship with someone from a different culture.
Yul and I are still in Australia so I haven’t been able to make many videos, but I did have lots of footage of him playing with the garden hose. And since he always turns the hose on me, I thought I’d edit all the footage together. Enjoy!
We’ll miss having this space when we go back to Korea…
This was actually the second time I had flown with Yul without Hugh but this time it was a little bit difficult! The first time was traumatic for me to be without Hugh (last minute change) but once I was on the plane it was okay as I had people around me help.
This time I felt very much alone as there was no one capable sitting around me to help me. I was prepared, but there are always things that can go really wrong.
As I mention in the video, they put an elderly man on the other side of me, on the aisle seat. It was difficult for him to get up and out of his seat so I felt very trapped for much of the flight. But several times I did have to get him to get up (he was very nice and I felt really bad) because I desperately had to get up and to the toilet with changing table. Watch the video to hear what happened before we even took off!
The most you can do to help with flying with a toddler is just be prepared as possible. You don’t want to over-pack, but you also want enough nappies (diapers), plastic bags, snacks and toys. The whole flight is just being alert to make sure your kid doesn’t start crying or having a tantrum meltdown.
Yul does watch the screens a little bit, so I put a kids movie on for him (the inflight entertainment), he can watch without sound happily too, but screen time only helps so much. Too much screen time with kids on planes can backfire because they can then have a tantrum when they can’t watch something or when it gets taken away from them. That’s why I don’t take an ipad for him on these flights yet.
I still have to fly back with him in a week! So I’ll be updating with more tips soon!
Last Easter Yul was just a round chubby baby, but this Easter he is old enough to do an Easter egg hunt! With no other cousins yet, it was just him, but he did understand the point of it really quickly and had fun doing it.
Easter eggs aren’t sold in Korea, and Easter isn’t really celebrated (it’s acknowledged but not CELEBRATED), even by Christians, so it was good to be able to come back to Australia and celebrate it with my family. Most of my family was home and we ate lots of good food, went to church and has nice family time together.
I’d like to always come back for Easter because the weather is so nice this time of year, but when we already come back for Christmas I’m not sure if it will work out every year. Hopefully we’ll be in a position soon to celebrate Christmas and Easter in Australia but Chuseok and Seollal in Korea.
Hot cross buns are in many countries but people didn’t know they are real!
Every year, at some point on social media, I’ll make a comment about hot cross buns. And every year there will be people who didn’t know they were a real thing! They will know there is a song called “Hot Cross Buns” but not that it’s a common Easter food in many countries. So this year, while back in Australia for Easter, I decided to make a quick video about hot cross buns in Australia.
It makes sense that it seems to be Commonwealth countries that continue this British tradition and why it’s usually Americans that don’t know about them. Seriously, Americans, you are missing out! While hot cross buns are available in some places in the US, it’s nothing like the traditions in other countries. Reactions range from “I did not know this was a real thing” to “I have seen them in some bakeries”. Nothing like the fevered desire and need in Australia to have hot cross buns at Easter. It’s a vital part of Easter here and symbolic for the Christian holiday.
As I mentioned in the video, there are different flavours now. But I still prefer the traditional type. Yul is happy to eat the traditional ones with fruit too, though many kids want the fruitless ones. We’ll see as he gets older though, if he decides he wants to be picky…
What do hot cross buns taste like? They are lovely moist buns with spices like cinnamon, nutmeg, all spice and fruit like sultanas and raisins and mixed peel bits. And of course they have a cross on them and are best served hot with butter. They are a nice treat now, but I imagine they must have been even better in previous centuries when sugar and sweet things weren’t as easily available.
I filmed this video very quickly just to show what it’s like in Australia and how all the bakeries are baking many hot cross buns to meet the demand for them on Easter.