So that happened… I had problems with my laptop yesterday that took a long time to fix and it’s really frustrating when you don’t have the money to buy a new laptop yet. It’s okay now I think, but I got really behind in all my work and then Hugh reminded me about the comic for the next day and asked what I was going to draw. I snarkily said, “You butt” and decided to go with that!
my korean husband
by Nic • Culture, In Korea, Korean Dramas, Korean People • Tags: korea toilet paper, koreans and toilet paper, my korean husband, toilet paper on table in korea, why do koreans use toilet paper like this?
This is definitely something that doesn’t bother me while I’m in Korea, but if we were living in Australia in our own place I’d have all the paper in the “right places”. Since my parents usually have Koreans boarding with them my mother has made a rule of no toilet paper in the kitchen. While it’s natural for Koreans to have it with them while cooking, it’s too odd for Australians to be using it as much a multipurpose thing.
We do have kitchen towel in the kitchen at my inlaws house here, but I think I use it more than anyone. I use it when cooking and as a serviette/napkin while everyone else is using the toilet paper. Having meals in Korea is vastly different to what I grew up with as well because the style of eating is so different. I would definitely fold the napkins into nice shapes and place them on the plates for nice dinners or when we had guests in Australia.
What Hugh said about sometimes using newspaper for toilet paper as a child was surprising for me. It is interesting to see how different our childhoods were.
Will I?…. Will I really?
I’m pretty terrible with dates and hardly remember anything, I even looked at the date yesterday and didn’t remember it was our anniversary. We do have 3 wedding anniversaries though (registry, Australian and Korean) so if we do miss one, there are others to celebrate. I also have a very understanding husband who doesn’t expect much but likes spoiling me, so we still had a nice dinner together. And part of my present was BIGBANG concert tix!
(Quick give me ideas for what I can do for our Korean wedding anniversary!!!!!)
Since there isn’t really a baking culture in Korea, for some Koreans (my husband in particular) tasting real home made cookies can be like a religious experience. In Korea, cookies (or biscuits in Australian/British English) are just store bought ones and even ones in cafes are not that good. Whenever we are in Australia Hugh demands more and more cookies. There are a lot of people living at my parents’ house so he was very concerned about other people eating the cookies. Several times I caught him trying to hide the container of cookies in our room.
It’s also interesting comparing childhood experiences with Koreans in regards to cooking. For example, baking is a relatively safe activity to do with children and my siblings and I were able to bake and make cakes and cookies from an early age. Since most homes in Korea don’t have ovens, it isn’t possible to get children baking at a young age and other types of cooking (stove top cooking) are more dangerous for young children. Not only are baking skills not learnt early on in Korea, but even buying simple baking items like measuring cups and wooden spoons can be difficult.
Did you learn how to bake when you were young?
Unfortunately we haven’t had nice weather here yet. I can see that it’s spring and it will be very pretty but it’s been raining since we got back.
As we mentioned in the video, I’ve just easily gone back to our normal life here while Hugh has felt a bit weird and maybe some reverse culture shock again. He was the one that fitted easily back into Australian culture, so it’s interesting how that works out.
We are back in Korea! We did film some things in Australia and have a few more vlogs to upload, but mostly it was a holiday for us. We have a bunch of photos to show you (mostly food) and then we’ll be back to normal schedule!
We were trying to film in my parents’ backyard and the rooster next door decided that he had to interrupt as much as possible. We were filming something for Hyunwoo, for Korean TV, that kinda needed to be one take but it ended up being impossible. Eventually we had to film somewhere else! That rooster was pretty lucky that Hugh didn’t eat him!
Woohoo Bigbang comeback! Unfortunately tickets for concerts go on sale while I’m in Australia so it’s impossible to try to buy them online from here. Even if I was in Korea, it’s so hard to get tickets because they sell out immediately and super hardcore fans have many computers set up to get them as quickly as possible. I can’t compete with that! Fingers crossed that I can get some tickets though… and don’t just have to settle with my husband singing me songs…
I really hope they do it right…
I’ve talked before about de-sexualisation of Asian men in Western media. We shouldn’t have to wait until a live-action version of Mulan to have a romantic lead who is Asian and it would be even more disturbing if they cast a white actor in the role of Shang. I really hope this movie isn’t white-washed.
Hugh told me about how growing up in Korea that he could watch many Korean and Asian movies where the lead males are Asian. Of course it’s normal for the romantic lead to be a Korean man because it’s in Korea. But slowly as he grew up, there is a gradual realisation that there is never an Asian man as a romantic lead in Hollywood movies. He has talked about the assumption Asian men then have that other women have no interest in them, because they are never shown as a love interest in the media. Western women definitely absorb what movies are telling them as well. I’ve had many well meaning friends say things like, “Your husband is good looking for an Asian guy”.
In fact, there are so many negative stereotypes about them that in movies they are usually only represented as the silly side-kick, the bad guys, or very occasionally an action hero in action movies. Hugh has talked about the impact Western media can have on self esteem and confidence, especially when interacting with people in other countries. If you’d like him to talk about it more, we could make a video discussing this topic. Let us know!
The live-action version of Mulan won’t be out for several years so I hope that by then that there is better representation of Asian men in movies. I really like Mulan, so I hope they do it well. Hugh has already said that if they cast white actors, he won’t be seeing it.
Because Australian internet is so bad, it’s hard to upload many videos while we are here. We won’t be able to upload much until we go back to Korea in 2 weeks.
This vlog is from the day before we flew out to Sydney.
We had a bunch of meetings and then we had dinner with our friends Simon and Martina from the very famous Eat Your Kimchi. Although we stay with them often, we are both usually quite busy and don’t actually get the chance to go out for dinner that often, but this time we did!
It’s still been warm enough to go swimming! It is Autumn in Australia but it’s much easier to go swimming here than in Korea. I’m getting all my swimming in now before we go back to Korea. Not sure why Mr Gwon felt the need to cover his pecs when it was just us in the backyard pool.
I’m sure a lot of you know who Hyunwoo Sun is, the founder of the excellent Talk to Me in Korean. He has an adorable baby boy called Joon, and this was the first time Alice met him.
Unfortunately Han is the one missing from this meet up. He had to go back to Australia for work, but Sophie and Alice are staying in Korea for a few more weeks.